I can elaborate a little more about my earlier post. My ex-husband and his wife are having a baby. This is the wife that he divorced me to obtain. Needless to say this was a huge blow to me. Even though I know that I know I don't want him back I don't want there to be any ties to this new family such as a half-sibling to my children. Of course, him asking me to pray for him was a little over the top also. Sad to say he didn't want me to pray for the child, he wanted me to pray because he wants a divorce. My prayer was that God's will would be done and their hearts softened to Him.
This entire episode has opened my eyes to strongholds I had in my life. I have a really negative attitude of step-families. I realized that I let go of the man as my husband but I hadn't let go of my "family". In my mind we were still co-parents and his wife was a non-person. Unfortunately, this is not reality. God really used this experience to show my negative attitude about step-families, remarriage, half-siblings, etc. I am praying and trying to soften my heart to this issues. Jesus was part of a step-family, they can't all be bad.
So, does anyone have any tips, encouragements, wisdom in this area?
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You know, I googled "stepfamily" and found alot of great websites and forums. You might browse around a bit on the net.
I came from a very dysfunctional family background...I mean VERY! All I can say is that God is bigger than any imperfection we face here. Our significance isn't based on whether or not we have a tidy little perfect family... Our significance is in Him and Him alone! We live in a sinful fallen world that will deal us blow after blow after blow - but how are we responding to those blows? With Gods character - with the strength He has provided for us all - With hope - with Faith - with Grace? Those are questions I had to ask myself in and throughout my journey. I still have to ask them. I understand your difficulty with step families, step children and so on - it's difficult because that is not how God intended it. You're just tapping into His heart, that's all...it's ok... What you have is now - stand firm in Him and who you are in Him...and be blessed!
crystal, i know all to well how you feel. it's SO hard i know, but i try to remember that God doesn't give us anything that we can't handle, through Him of course. i am so proud of you and your strength, especially moving past the pain and hurt to pray for him even though he doesn't deserve it, but like you said neither do we. i understand step families/children being hard, but i also know through experience that God makes some of his most beautiful, precious families in this way. you are amazing and He will continue to give you the strength as you continue to fall on Him.
Hey Crystal! How ya doing? Hope you're doing well!!!
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